I found a good website that deals with all aspects of sexual abuse. It can help you if you have had sexual fantasies about children or if you know someone who abuses children, or if you are the abused person. The link to the site is here:
http://www.stopitnow.org/
“Come, follow me,” Jesus said,
“and I will make you fishers of men.”
Saturday, March 21, 2009
Abusive Potty Training
I happened upon a website that I feel compelled to share. I wasn't aware of the horrible problems that potty traing can cause when there is punishment and ridicule involved, and I think that this is a good website for EVERYONE to check out.
http://net-burst.net/sex_abuse/toilet.htm
“Come, follow me,” Jesus said,
“and I will make you fishers of men.”
http://net-burst.net/sex_abuse/toilet.htm
“Come, follow me,” Jesus said,
“and I will make you fishers of men.”
Friday, March 20, 2009
Self Nurturing
A huge part of being a christian parent is knowing how to parent yourself. Allowing yourself to be nutured and cared for is critical to being the type of mother who can effectivly respond to her family's needs. Though it is fast becoming a parenting cliche, it is very much like the familiar analogy of crashing in an airplane. The airmasks drop and the intercom says to put your own on first before your child's. The idea is that if you pass out while trying to put your child's mask on, they have no one to care for them and you are both lost.
Parenting is very similar in that your child needs your understanding and compassion more than almost anything. But if you feel as though you have no time for yourself and as though no one appericiates you for the things that you contribute, when your child needs your compassion, you will have none left to give to them. You could get very angry and frusterated with life in general and take it out on your child or husband, since they are the closest people to you, generally.
Make sure and take time out for yourself, even if it is only half an hour during naptime, or fifteen minutes before the kids wake up. Spend some time with the Lord and in your Bible, almost nothing is as refreshing. Go outside and breathe the air. Take your kids to the park and bring snacks for them and a book for you. Learn to knit or crochet. It's something you no longer need to feel guilty about, for it for the good of your family.
“Come, follow me,” Jesus said,
“and I will make you fishers of men.”
Parenting is very similar in that your child needs your understanding and compassion more than almost anything. But if you feel as though you have no time for yourself and as though no one appericiates you for the things that you contribute, when your child needs your compassion, you will have none left to give to them. You could get very angry and frusterated with life in general and take it out on your child or husband, since they are the closest people to you, generally.
Make sure and take time out for yourself, even if it is only half an hour during naptime, or fifteen minutes before the kids wake up. Spend some time with the Lord and in your Bible, almost nothing is as refreshing. Go outside and breathe the air. Take your kids to the park and bring snacks for them and a book for you. Learn to knit or crochet. It's something you no longer need to feel guilty about, for it for the good of your family.
“Come, follow me,” Jesus said,
“and I will make you fishers of men.”
Wednesday, March 18, 2009
NameBoy.com
Hey! I have been looking into seriously starting a business, and as I have looked for names, I found this amazing site called nameboy.com.
Free Domain Name Appraisals from Nameboy
It will browse possible domain names for you and then appraise them for free! The appraisal is pretty in depth and explains to you how it all works! Check it out!
“Come, follow me,” Jesus said,
“and I will make you fishers of men.”
Free Domain Name Appraisals from Nameboy
It will browse possible domain names for you and then appraise them for free! The appraisal is pretty in depth and explains to you how it all works! Check it out!
“Come, follow me,” Jesus said,
“and I will make you fishers of men.”
Monday, March 16, 2009
What Would Mary Do??
Many people have an idea that Biblical parenting involves switching your children. I could see how this could be a conception that people have, seeing the oft quoted Proverbs verses that admonish that to spare the rod is to hate your son. I am not going to discuss here what these Proverbs mean or even what the different veiwpoints are, for that is not the purpose of this post.
We are going to discuss a little about Jesus' own upbringing.
In Luke 2:41-52, we see Jesus going into Jerusalem with his family for the Passover. This was a common occurance and shows that his parents were devout in thier religion. At the end of the stay,
"and when the feast was ended, as they were returning, the boy Jesus stayed behind in Jerusalem. His parents did not know it, but supposing him to be in the company they went a day's journey, and they sought him among their kinsfolk and acquaintances; and when they did not find him, they returned to Jerusalem, "
Josheph and Mary had no idea that Jesus had hung back at Jerusalem, so it's not like he asked to stay there.
they returned to Jerusalem, seeking him. After three days they found him in the temple, sitting among the teachers, listening to them and asking them questions; and all who heard him were amazed at his understanding and his answers. And when they saw him they were astonished; and his mother said to him 'Son, why have you treated us so? Behold, your father and I have been looking for you anxiously.'
No yelling, no arguing, no beating or Dad brandishing his belt. Just "Why did you do this? We've been worried sick and you've been missing for 5 days!"
“and I will make you fishers of men.”
We are going to discuss a little about Jesus' own upbringing.
In Luke 2:41-52, we see Jesus going into Jerusalem with his family for the Passover. This was a common occurance and shows that his parents were devout in thier religion. At the end of the stay,
"and when the feast was ended, as they were returning, the boy Jesus stayed behind in Jerusalem. His parents did not know it, but supposing him to be in the company they went a day's journey, and they sought him among their kinsfolk and acquaintances; and when they did not find him, they returned to Jerusalem, "
Josheph and Mary had no idea that Jesus had hung back at Jerusalem, so it's not like he asked to stay there.
they returned to Jerusalem, seeking him. After three days they found him in the temple, sitting among the teachers, listening to them and asking them questions; and all who heard him were amazed at his understanding and his answers. And when they saw him they were astonished; and his mother said to him 'Son, why have you treated us so? Behold, your father and I have been looking for you anxiously.'
No yelling, no arguing, no beating or Dad brandishing his belt. Just "Why did you do this? We've been worried sick and you've been missing for 5 days!"
And he said to them, 'How is it that you sought me? Did you not know that I must be in my Father's house?' And they did not understand the saying which he spoke to them. And he went down with them and came to Nazareth, and was obedient to them; and his mother kept all these things in her heart. And Jesus increased in wisdom and in stature, and grew in favor with God and man."
Jesus, little 12 year old that He was, answered them back. He didn't get switched for it, evn though they didn't understand what he was saying. They didn't accuse Him of lying to them, even though his "father" had been searching for Him and the temple most certainly wasn't Joseph's house. They went home and life continued.
I think there is much to be gleaned from this passage in scripture. Parenting wise, Jesus wasn't hurt for something that many kids today would get spanked for. He didn't mean to do wrong, so it wasn't a sin. Many kids today don't mean to do wrong, but they are punished anyways. Why can't we just sit down and talk to them about the consequences of their actions, on them adn on everyone else? Breed compasion in our children when they are young, and they will be sensitive when they are older.
For a reference on what the Bible means when they talk of "the rod", http://www.gentlechristianmothers.com/weblog/archives/2007/06/index.html#a000070
or this article http://www.gentlechristianmothers.com/weblog/archives/2007/03/index.html#a000068
“and I will make you fishers of men.”
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